WHAT'S THE FUSS ABOUT SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE?

Social Intelligence (SQ) is the ability to get along successfully with people and to get them to cooperate with you.

With greater SQ, we can discover the great value that can be found in meaningful social relationships. SQ is a new framework of understanding other people. We are wired to connect with other people, and the desire to connect is not a sign of flawed character but one that can enrich one's life.

Social Intelligence is not Emotional Intelligence although closely related. SQ is about understanding the personalities and reactive behaviors of people to know how to best get to along and get a positive outcome whereas EQ is about understanding your emotions and emotions of others with a strong emphasis on empathy. 

Active Listening is a key skill in SI

In a nutshell SQ is about developing stronger people skills. 95% of what humans think, say and do is done automatically, without thought. As you develop SQ, you can learn to spot this and be more intentional with your dealings with others to achieve a harmonious outcome.

ARE YOU SQ?

IF you answered YES to most of the following then you have strong social intelligence skills

·    You speak less and listen more

·    You leave people feeling comfortable and with ease

·    You make others feel respected, affirmed, encouraged and competent 

·    You have a nourishing personality
·    You are sensitive towards others

·    You don’t speak in definite about people, politics and ideas

·    You don’t confuse opinion for facts

·    You speak with confidence and clarity

·    You don’t embarrass others openly

·    You validate other people

·    You work on self-development

·    You are self-aware and know thyself

·    You have natural charisma and are respected by many

WHAT HAPPENS WITH SQ?

As you develop social intelligence you will shift away from seeing yourself as the center of the social universe and focus more on the actual connections and interactions with other people. When you are socially intelligent, you make the choice to understand how other people see situations and compare it to how you see it. As a result, you will understand more fully what is happening and be in a better position to act with foresight rather than thoughtless reaction.

HOW CAN YOU IMPROVE SQ?

You can change your approach depending on the person you are dealing with so that you can connect with people. People like people who are similar to them. You can win with people by showing similarities not differences. You can also develop the skill of reading people and understanding social situations by being observant and fully present with interactions. 

Slides from Social Intelligence Training

Listening is a very strong SQ skill. You can listen actively before you respond. In discussions with others, don’t try to inform people of their ignorance or show them up in public.  Speak with confidence and precision. Validate other people’s feelings and don’t argue with people who don’t want to learn. Show empathy. Work on yourself tirelessly so that you know thyself and other people. 

Slides from Social Intelligence training

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Socially intelligence is a choice which you can refine throughout life. 

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