It’s not always easy to talk with others about challenging issues especially if it
involves being upfront, but it's good to talk and it improves relationships.
The way we are brought up has a lot to do with ability to talk openly about issues but even if this wasn't the case for you, it can be improved immensely by deliberate effort. It's good to talk.
The way we are brought up has a lot to do with ability to talk openly about issues but even if this wasn't the case for you, it can be improved immensely by deliberate effort. It's good to talk.
Barriers
To Talking
Most of us our hesitant because:
Most of us our hesitant because:
We may be misunderstood
We may sound weak
We might not express ourselves clearly
We might be laughed at
We might get insulted
We might get insulted
We might upset the person
We don’t know where to start
We don’t want to worry others
We don’t want to disturb the peace
They might not be interested
Its too complicated
They might not be interested
Its too complicated
The Benefits of Talking
1. Peace of Mind
2. Healthier Relationships
3. Stronger Confidence
4.Victory Over Satan
What Happens when you don’t talk?
1. Peace of Mind
2. Healthier Relationships
3. Stronger Confidence
4.Victory Over Satan
What Happens when you don’t talk?
Resentment
builds up
The more you keep away from discussing an issue, the more resentment builds up. Before you know it, you could end up disliking a person
just because you haven’t discussed an issue.
Issues get swept under the carpet
Anything that is not discussed will slowly become an issue because sooner or later someone will explode. Deal with an issue straight away to avoid this.
Sickness
This may sound far fetched but not speaking about issues may trigger mental illness and sickness. Ask any psychiatrist.
This may sound far fetched but not speaking about issues may trigger mental illness and sickness. Ask any psychiatrist.
If relationships and friendships are important to you
then you must find ways to talk about all sorts of issues, even the challenging ones
- · Be Open - That means saying exactly what you mean in a diplomatic way.
- · Be Honest - You can discuss matters openly without hurting others. You should be honest.
- · Listen - A talk is a chance to listen to another person's point of view. It's not a one way conversation.
- · Show you care - Dont be a bully or controlling when talking to others about challenging issues because it so easy for others to get defensive and you wont achieve your goal. Always be diplomatic.
That it's from me. How about you? Do you find it easy to talk about challenging issues? Can you provide any useful tips? Would love to hear from you in the comment box. If you found this article useful, then please share with others.
Yes, I'm a strong believer of opening up and talking. That's the medicine to a successful marriage.
ReplyDeleteDefinitely Maddie, I agree completely
DeleteI just read your latest article on talking. Very good! I am a shut clam, and I can't agree more. It is true, lack of communication is deadly to a relationship and sense of self. As you said, the reasons to keep stuff to one self are very real, and daunting, and courage is needed. I am learning how to cultivate that courage. I don't advise someone who is stuck in a cycle of silence to just throw themselves to the wolves. If you are not ready, the anxiety and fear will likely create a filter of perception that will not allow clear communication, and attract further evidence that the fear is valid. I've been developing some techniques to use alone first for those who struggle, that beef up self-awareness and clarity, as well as compassion and respect for all parties included . I wish everyone the freedom of connection; it is a process. Thank you again for sharing your wisdom, your message was divinely timed. Bless you and all your works!
ReplyDeleteThank you Andrea. Its takes boldness to speak up but timing is also important and diplomacy. Thanks for your comments. Much appreciated
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