CONFIDENCE IS EVERYTHING

I recently put a call out across social media asking to finish this sentence, ''Confidence is…..''

and a bundle of different responses came through which isn’t surprising.

HERE ARE SOME OF THEM

‘’Owning who you are and walking boldly in your skin and choices’’ Ifeoma Igweze

‘’Constantly reminding yourself of God’s presence at all times in every single situation’’. Ope Onaboye

‘’Being conscious of how valuable you are to yourself and others’’. Joy Felix

‘’Being who you are and loving it, no matter what others think’’. Toyin Muyi

You can see from the above responses that confidence is really everything and without aiming to build confidence in all aspects of your life, you might feel ’’less’’ than you should.

Here are some areas of confidence that we should build on

Confidence In Your Relationship With God

Confidence in God is essential for believers. You just have to truly believe that God’s got your back. When you know that you have done all that you can do,   you have to put your total trust in God. That is confidence in HIM. How do you get this? You have to totally believe and trust in HIM. You have to pray and meditate on HIS Word day and Night literally. You have to recall the times that God did it for you and know that HE will do it again at his perfect time.

Confidence With Your Other Half

If you don’t have confidence in your partner, then the relationship will be a struggle.  How do you gain trust? Make sure your partner is your best friend. Communication is key. Speak to your partner. Understand your partner. Be open and vulnerable. There is no room for pretending with your partner. Your partner has to be your ‘’All and All’’.

Confidence With Friendships

The wrong friend can knock your confidence so its essential that you seek the right ones for you. Do an audit of your friendships and lean in on the ones that build your confidence. These are friendships that are kind, supportive and not highly competitive or envious. It takes openness, even with difficult conversations to build confidence in friendships. There may be seasons of quietness because of the busyness of life but if you’ve built a solid foundation, you will always catch up where you left off because you have confidence in the friendship.

Confidence With Your Health And Fitness Goals

When you are not fit and healthy it can affect your confidence. You may start to compare your body image to others. Your mental wellbeing may also be affected.  You can achieve those health and fitness goals.  You just have to believe you can. Be disciplined and take baby steps to achieve your goals. 

Confidence In Business Or Work

If want to achieve confidence in business or work then aim for excellence. How do you achieve this? In business, do your research. Find out everything you can on how to run your business in the most effective and efficient way. Skill up and go on training. Network.

If you are an employee, be an effective team player. Go beyond your job role and learn everything you need to know about your job and the company. 

Knowledge builds confidence

Confidence In Yourself

Finally you need to build confidence in yourself because if you don’t nobody else will. If you don’t have confidence in yourself it gives others an opportunity to mock and control you. You have to believe that you are worthy to all that life has to offer, just like anyone else. So go out there and be confident.

Special thanks to my Facebook Family, Raising Confident Girls Family and Instagram family for helping me with this exercise.

If you haven’t answered the question, what is confidence to you? Please let us know in the comment box and feel free to share this post.

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HOW TO KEEP YOUR WOMAN HAPPY

It’s not hard to keep a real woman HAPPY! But too many women are not content in their relationships because their men are not keeping them happy. The honeymoon stage is over and you’ve settled into marriage life and things just seem to be boring. He’s just not keeping you happy. It doesn’t have to be that way. Here are some simple tips on how you can keep your woman happy. 

Listen To Her

Women need men to listen. There is so much going on in her head. So many battles out there. No just with raising kids but also with her career and her personal growth. She needs a man that can listen. He may not necessarily be able to fix her issue because that’s what he thinks he needs to do but she just wants you to listen. Please listen to her.

Be Loving

It’s not enough to tell a woman that you love her but you have to show it. How do you show her that you love her? Understand her love language. Understand what lights up her eyes. It might just be that dinner date, that she hardly gets to go on. It might be that hug that she needs so much from you, to feel protected. Talk to her to understand how to love her.

Be Her Cheerleader

Women just like men are under so much pressure especially in their careers. So wouldn’t it be nice to know that your man is rooting for you. Sometimes so many people are encouraging her and telling her to keep it up ‘’EXCEPT  the person that she is  married to. She wants you to root for her and be her cheerleader. Stick up for her even when your family may not be so supportive. The two of you are one. Anyone that puts down your wife down is putting you down. Dont tolerate it. Be her cheerleader. 

Encourage Her

A lot of women get to a certain stage in life and realise that what that are doing doesn’t make them fulfilled. Some are frustrated and leave jobs that previously defined them or carried such a heavy status.  A man is her other half and so he should be the one to encourage her to fulfill her God given potential and purpose. He shouldn’t be competing with her either, rather he should encourage her to live her dreams. When he does this, he helps maintain the peace and happiness in the home.

Help Out

It’s the little things that matter. Maybe she might not be in the mood to cook, why not cook for a change. Think about doing something that she always does often and offer to help out. It wont strip you of your manhood and she will really appreciate that you did that for her. It just shows you care and that you dont want your darling wife to be burnt out. Surprise her.

That is it from me, so come on ladies, what else should your man do to keep you happy or for those who are happy in love, what is he doing right?

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Everyone deserves happiness.